A Nigerian woman, identified as Buithat Hudu Muhammad Lawal, has sparked widespread reactions on social media after openly seeking a second wife for her husband. The Facebook post, in which she shared her reasons behind the decision, quickly gained attention and has been met with various opinions.
In her post, Buithat Hudu Muhammad Lawal revealed that she is not against the concept of polygamy itself but criticized how some men approach it, particularly pointing out the lack of fairness and wisdom in their actions. According to her, if her husband chooses to practice polygamy, she would have no objections, as she has been aware of this possibility from the start.
The woman made it clear that she was not looking for a co-wife who would be jealous or manipulative. Instead, she expressed a desire for a second wife who possesses qualities such as wisdom, love, kindness, and good character. Additionally, she highlighted that she would like the freedom to travel for work, knowing that her children would be safe and well taken care of in her absence.
She further explained that her understanding of polygamy has evolved over time, and she now envisions it as a partnership where both wives contribute to a harmonious and supportive environment. However, she also raised critical questions, such as whether her husband would be able to practice true fairness and whether the potential new wife would be spiritually grounded. These considerations, she noted, were important aspects of her vision for a successful polygamous relationship.
In her post, she emphasized that life should not be this difficult, and she believes polygamy, if approached with wisdom and fairness, can be a peaceful and fulfilling arrangement. She also reassured her followers that she genuinely meant every word she said about bringing another woman into her marital life.
Read Her Post Below…
Yesterday, I made a post about wanting a co-wife. Someone to join me in this journey of life with my husband. I noticed a lot of people thought I wasn’t serious, maybe even joked about it. But deep down, I meant every word.
I’ve always admired polygamy. It’s never been an issue for me. What I do take issue with is how many of our men go about it, lacking fairness and wisdom.
Growth changes a person. As I’ve grown, so have my thoughts. I’ve always told my husband, if he wants to take another wife, I support it.
No, I’m not looking for a jealous or manipulative co-wife. I want someone kind, wise, filled with love, and grounded in good character. I want the freedom to travel for work knowing my children are safe and cared for.
I have a deep vision of what polygamy can be, but the real questions are: Can my husband be truly just? And can the new wife be spiritually grounded? Life really isn’t meant to be this hard.
I just needed to share my thoughts on polygamy and what it means to me.✍️✍️✍️✍️✍️✍️✍️✍️
