A Nigerian woman has taken to social media to share her heartbreaking story, revealing the domestic violence she has endured in her marriage. In an emotional post, she disclosed that her husband had repeatedly assaulted her — even during pregnancy — and cruelly locked her out of their home following a miscarriage.
The woman decided to break her silence by sharing her painful experience in a series of posts and videos on her TikTok page. She highlighted the struggles many women face in abusive marriages, explaining how financial dependence, fear of the unknown, and concerns about their children often keep them trapped in toxic relationships.
She stressed that while some women manage to escape in their early years, others remain in these situations indefinitely, and tragically, some do not survive.
In her own words, she wrote:
“A lot of women are stuck in abusive marriages, not because they want to be, but because of their children, financial instability, and fear of starting over. They don’t know where to go or how to provide for their kids.”
“I understand the pain of those still in such situations because I have been there. It took me four years to realize that you cannot change an abuser. No matter what you do, they will never change.”
“Abusers only continue to break you. Some women manage to leave early in life, others stay for years, and unfortunately, some never make it out alive. Many women share the same pain I have endured, and when children are involved, leaving becomes even harder.”
“But as for me, I have made my decision. I am leaving. I know people will accuse me of leaving because of another man, but that is not the case. They are even threatening to take my children away, but I have to save myself before it’s too late.”
In response to a comment on her post, she further described the horrors she faced, saying:
“A man that beats his wife while she is pregnant? A man that hits a new mother? A man that locks his wife outside after she loses a pregnancy? God will judge you.”
As her heart-wrenching story gained attention online, concerned social media users flooded the comment section to express their opinions. Some offered words of encouragement, while others debated her decision and criticized the realities of abusive marriages.
See some reactions below:
Modi_Olonje: “It’s not because of your kids, it’s because you like being a victim and don’t want to work.”
iamlight: “Save yourself! Your children will understand when they grow up. If you have to leave them with him temporarily, do it and fix your life first.”
ENNY: “What did you do to him? Because in every reaction, there must be an action.”
Ghosted: “If I were to advise you, making this video while you are still in his house is dangerous… You shouldn’t let him know your next move. It’s risky. If I were you, I would act normal and then disappear with my kids.”
Lucy J: “He also hit his child? 😩😩 That’s pure evil. You need to leave as soon as possible.”
Lena Ice: “She’s choosing to stay with him over her kids. No worries 😂😂😂.”
Annabel: “A close friend of mine was in an abusive relationship. She had two children, and despite not being married traditionally, she refused to leave because of the kids. Sadly, she died, and now the kids are left alone.”
jaynieyech55: “When you are ready to truly leave, you will do it. For now, it sounds like you’re making excuses 💔.”
Affordable Luxury Hair Vendor: “I left at 22 with my two daughters. They were just a year and two years old at the time. I went back to my parents’ house. You can start over.”
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I have been a victim for 4 years! I am speaking out now because they are threatening my life! I will no longer stay silent! I will speak out until it’s over!
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Abusers don’t ever change 😭
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