Pastor David Uche has sparked mixed reactions online after sharing his thoughts on why many women struggle to find husbands. In a viral video circulating on social media, the pastor explained what he believes are spiritual and practical reasons that might prevent women from securing a marriage partner. He specifically highlighted that women who have achieved financial independence by purchasing things like cars and homes may make it difficult for men to envision a place for themselves in their lives. According to Pastor Uche, this sense of independence can unintentionally push potential suitors away.
In his controversial statement, the pastor emphasized that single women should consider delaying major purchases, such as cars and houses, until they have found a suitable partner. He argued that such possessions can interfere with the natural flow of relationships and make it harder for men to imagine themselves as the head of a household. Pastor Uche also advised that women should consider living with their parents or close family members until they meet the right man, claiming that living independently might reduce the likelihood of forming a lasting partnership. He went on to say, “If you’re doing everything on your own and living alone, it becomes difficult for a man to see how he fits into your life. Money makes the heart independent and strong. Stay with your parents—it’s a man who is supposed to come and take you into his home. Live with your sister or family. Only when you move into a man’s house should you start taking full responsibility.”
The pastor’s comments have sparked a range of reactions from social media users. Some have criticized his statements as outdated and offensive, while others have voiced agreement. One Twitter user, @chinwe_lynn, expressed frustration, particularly with the Igbo phrasing used by the pastor. Another user, @legit.jalabiya_ng, pointed out that women in Nigeria face significant challenges in the search for a suitable partner but are often expected to take on full responsibility for their lives. Meanwhile, @sqqipper called the pastor’s views “nonsense,” while @dr_adaora noted that the pastor’s focus seemed to be more on projecting personal insecurities than offering spiritual guidance. On the other hand, @i_am_dinmaa suggested that Nigerian Christian women should stop idolizing certain pastors, urging them to focus on their own spiritual growth instead. There was also a response from @faith_ibidun, who pointed out the challenges of living with family when her parents were no longer alive and she was eager to get married.
The video and its accompanying discussion continue to stir debate, with many calling for a more balanced and progressive approach to relationship advice. Watch the video below to see the pastor’s full statement on the issue.