A Nigerian man identified as Damilola Christian Amadi has stirred up a heated debate on social media following a controversial statement he made about married men who still live in their father’s houses. According to him, any man who chooses to remain under his father’s roof after getting married is nothing short of lazy.
Damilola made this assertion in a post shared via his Facebook page, where he didn’t hold back in criticizing men who fail to establish independent homes for their wives and families. His post has since gone viral, sparking various reactions from Nigerians across multiple platforms.
He specifically called out men who bring their wives into their family homes, subjecting them to uncomfortable situations, including sharing household spaces with other family members, especially the mother-in-law. According to him, this behavior puts unnecessary emotional and mental stress on the wives who often find themselves having to ask for permission just to carry out basic domestic activities like cooking.
He wrote: “You’re a very lazy person if you are married and living in your father’s house and if your wife needs anything or wants to cook, she will need to share kitchen with your mother or take permission from her before cooking…..”.
Damilola went on to say that such living arrangements strip married women of their dignity and freedom, making it harder for them to express themselves and manage their own homes. He emphasized that the responsibility of creating a conducive and private environment for a wife lies solely with the husband, and failing to do so reflects poor planning and lack of ambition.
His statement has generated a mixed bag of responses, with some social media users backing his opinion and agreeing that independent housing is vital for the success of any marriage. Others, however, criticized him for being insensitive to the financial struggles many young couples face, especially in today’s economy where rent and cost of living are at an all-time high.
Supporters of Damilola’s opinion argue that living in a father’s house as a married man is not only inconvenient for the wife but also diminishes the man’s authority and creates room for unnecessary interference from extended family members. They believe that a married couple should prioritize privacy and independence to build a strong foundation.
On the other hand, critics pointed out that not everyone has the financial capacity to move out immediately after marriage, and called for more empathy and understanding rather than harsh judgment.
Despite the controversy, Damilola’s post has reignited discussions around the importance of setting boundaries in marriage, financial readiness before tying the knot, and the need for personal growth and accountability among men in family settings.