A man has come forward to share the deeply personal and complicated emotional turmoil he is currently experiencing regarding his romantic life and family situation.
In his detailed confession, the man explained that he started working at the municipality five years ago, which marked a significant turning point in his life. During this period, he reconnected with his baby mama, who at the time was engaged to another man and no longer in a relationship with him.
Driven by a desire to co-parent their child under the same roof, he convinced her to break off her engagement by promising to marry her within a year. Trusting his words, she moved in with him, believing they would soon formalize their relationship and build a stable family together.
As time passed, their relationship grew, and they went on to have two additional children, with a fourth child currently on the way. However, despite his promise, they remained in a “vat and sit” arrangement, which means they continued to live together without officially marrying.
The man revealed that he has failed to fulfill his promise of marriage and now finds himself emotionally distant from his baby mama. He described her as lacking ambition and not being as attractive as she once was in his eyes, which has contributed to his growing dissatisfaction.
Recently, he developed strong feelings for a younger and more ambitious colleague at his workplace. He described her as beautiful, intelligent, and someone who aligns more with his current values and vision for the future. He believes she might be a better fit for him than his current partner.
In a heartfelt plea, he shared his inner conflict about whether to end things with his baby mama immediately or wait until after she delivers their fourth child. He emphasized that despite wanting to move on, he is committed to supporting his children financially and emotionally.
His full words read …
“Please keep me anonymous. I got employed at the municipality 5 years ago. Immediately after getting employed I asked my baby mama to move in with me. We were not together anymore at the time and she engaged to someone. I convinced her to leave him and promised to save money to marry her within a year. I just wanted us to raise our child together. It’s been 5 years and we have two more kids. She’s pregnant with our 4th. We are still in a vat and sit because I never got to marry her. I met someone at work and I think she’s more of my type than my baby mama. She’s young, beautiful and very smart. My baby mama lacks ambitions and she’s not as attractive as she used to be. My feelings for her have faded. I love my colleague more. Would it be insensitive to tell her to move out now or should I wait for her to give birth? I’ll take care of the kids.”
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