A Sweden-based East African lady, Maureen Bahema, has stirred heated conversations on social media with her controversial take on submission in relationships.
In a post shared on the popular microblogging platform, X, on Sunday, March 16, Bahema addressed women who are unwilling to submit to their partners before marriage, urging them to step aside for those who are ready to embrace the role.
According to her, submission is not a quality that magically appears after marriage but rather a practice that should begin during the dating phase.
Bahema argued that expecting a woman to suddenly become submissive after tying the knot is unrealistic. Instead, she emphasized that a woman's willingness to submit should be evident in the relationship phase, as it sets the foundation for marriage dynamics.
In her exact words, she wrote:
“Ladies, if you can’t submit to a man in a relationship, you won’t submit to him in marriage. A ring on your finger won’t suddenly bring a spirit of submission the day after your wedding. Submission doesn’t happen overnight. It begins in a relationship. You either step up or step aside for the woman who will!!”
Her statement immediately triggered diverse reactions from netizens, with opinions split between those who supported her view and those who found it problematic.
Netizens Reactions…
Blessed said: “Bitter truth to the rotten feminist.”
TheMan commented: “Dem don dey cry😂😂😂😂😂. They hate the word submit, even the ones claiming to be submissive wives, it’s because the man still has some money. Make him jam hard time first, you will see them true color.”
Grief Counsellor said: “All marriage advice is for the women. Nobody tells the men to treat their wives well so their prayers would be unhindered.”
@HilaryMashava said: “Facts only 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾.”
@Timeless414 reacted: “Submission should be both ways. You both need to submit your minds and bodies to each other, but there has to be a captain piloting the affairs of the family, which is the man, and that should never be up for debate.”
@Idkjeniii added: “A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, trust, and understanding, not just submission.”
@Madebodefi commented: “I can imagine how some women feel like strangl*ng you right now 😂😂😂.”
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