Celebrity fashion designer Veekee James has recently ignited a significant wave of discussion across social media platforms following her frank and candid marriage advice given to her sister-in-law at a bridal shower celebration.
The successful businesswoman, who frequently attracts both praise and criticism for her open displays of affection with her husband, Femi Atere, has once again become a focal point of public debate.
In a video that quickly went viral, the award-winning designer was seen among the guests at her sister-in-law’s pre-wedding event. She took the microphone to offer some personal insights and marriage advice drawn from her own experiences.
Speaking openly and without hesitation, Veekee said:
“I have almost one year and six months of experience in marriage. Don’t deny your husband sex. It’s not that you are angry, you are just tired and the last thing you want is someone to touch you.
Just lie down and open your legs for him. Not that there are some days you can’t turn him down; you will know how you’ll pet him; unless he’s a wicked person, he too will understand.”
Additionally, she warned her sister-in-law against making comparisons in marriage, emphasizing the importance of never comparing one’s husband to other men.
The video quickly spread across various social media platforms, including Instagram, TikTok, and X (formerly Twitter), sparking a mix of reactions from viewers. While some applauded Veekee’s honesty and appreciated her speaking from real personal experience, others criticized her advice as outdated, potentially insensitive, especially concerning issues around consent and emotional well-being.
Reactions trailing Veekee James’ advice to sister-in-law
hibiscusss_ reacted: “I feel like she’s overcompensating. She’s always trying to make herself small so her husband can appear bigger. She wants to be a good, submissive wife. It’s ridiculous because it’s so performative.”
Beautiranye noted: “Any man that will get an erection with a woman who will just open their legs for you to just do the work is a wild animal.”
DrMel_ penned: “What of days when he’s really really tired?”
mellycrochets said: “Please if she’s tired, you both should just curdle and sleep. Which one is <lie down and open your legs>?”
The timing of this advice comes amid ongoing conversations around marriage dynamics, consent, and the evolving understanding of partnership roles in modern relationships.
Watch the video below …
“Don’t deny your husband s3x. If you are too tired, just lie down and open your legs. You don’t need to do any work” – Celebrity designer, Veekee James advises her sister-in-law at her bridal shower. pic.twitter.com/IXgyF4i7qw
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