Renowned novelist, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie advises young women on the need to choose the right partners for themselves.
During a recent event attended by numerous young women and literary enthusiasts, the celebrated ‘Dream Count’ author passionately urged ladies to take great care in making the important decision about whom to marry. She emphasized that this choice can greatly influence their happiness, growth, and future success.
She noted that one’s partner shapes how their lives turn out eventually, explaining that many women underestimate the long-term impact of choosing a life partner who does not support their dreams or respect their individuality.
Chimamanda further highlighted that ladies should endeavour to choose a kind and supportive man, as she herself has experienced the benefits of making the right choice. She shared personal anecdotes, inspiring the audience to prioritize qualities like kindness, empathy, and emotional support over material possessions or societal pressures.
The writer said in part …
“It’s really important who you choose, young women choose wisely. Sometimes you can tell that the person who you are with is not really a good person, but you are desperate to get married. The person who you choose as your life partner will make a huge difference in your life. Choose somebody who is kind, who is supportive, it will make all the difference. I can tell you that I chose well….”
Her speech sparked a wave of discussions online, with many applauding her for speaking out boldly and honestly about an issue often overlooked in modern relationships.
Reactions have followed …
kuswansalome said: “As a woman be sure you’re choosable as well…. Be worth choosing!!!”
ksolo_hitz wrote: “Well said, it goes both ways. Choose wisely and don’t settle for less”
damilolabanire commented: “Some parents owe their children a HUGE apology for the choice of partners they made to parent their kids”
kenniepo stated: “Did you notice that she didn’t mention money or any material things?”
Many women expressed gratitude for her message, saying they felt empowered and more confident to make better decisions for their future. Some also shared personal stories about how choosing the wrong partner had affected them negatively, and how they wished they had heard advice like Chimamanda’s earlier.
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